Love you first then others(find yourself, who are you?)

This is for anyone who has never loved themselves or puts others before themselves. It's not a bad thing to want to help others or to love them, it only becomes hazardous when you lose yourself and are being hurt. I hear all the time you must love yourself before you can truly love anybody but I disagree. There are a handful of people in this wide big world that love others so deeply that you can't find where they start and the others end. No one knows who they truly are, including themselves because they have lost themselves in the people they help and love. Every person they have helped and loved has taken apart of them and left them not knowing who they are. They are like a constant ocean wave changing at every tide. When they finally had enough and go looking for themselves it's hard to sort out who they are and who they are not due to the pieces that were taken. When they finally find and decide who they are, life and people tells them  that's not them and quit being fake. It's only because people  know them one way, so when they are trying to be themselves they get judged and most of the time quit trying to be their true self. Why do we do that to people? Why can't we just let them be and love them for who they are at the moment? Some people never change, they are the same their whole life through and others have multiple changes due to what ever reasons(abuse, drugs, trauma ect ect..) once they finally figure it out we should love them and support them for who they are. While others will never find themselves and will be constantly changing. The important thing to remember is we are all God's children and He loves us all. He made us all in His image. My challenge to you is not to be so judgmental, to try and see the why they are like that and more importantly try and love them like God does. It's not easy as we are human, I just ask you to try. God knows the heart and intention of each person and He will judge accordingly. So you be you and I be me let's show the world we can live in love, peace and harmony.