Setting Boundaries

 What is boundary-crossing?

  Also some Red Flags🚩

When you have repeatedly told someone that what they say or do makes you uncomfortable but they do it anyways.

NO MEANS NO! You don't have to have an explanation! 

When you have told them the same things for months or over and over again  but they do not listen or they do not believe you.

When they have provoked you to the point of anger but can't figure out why your so angry and then they tell you to calm down or that they are sorry but continue to repeat this pattern.

When they know about your past but keep throwing it up in your face or tell people how you once were. (Which we all know people can change and your not that person any more)

When they say if you do such and such I'm going to hurt myself or kill myself or you really don't care/love them if you don't do what they are asking

When they only tell  one side of the story (we know that a story has two sides well three)

When they say things will change but they don't and the behavior, actions and words stay the same.

When they feel entitled to go through your things without asking or the need to put a tracker/spyware on your phone or put cameras up without you knowing. 

When they think they are entitled to know where your at, who your with and what your doing at all times.

You can't talk to the opposite sex or have friends of the opposite sex without them thinking you're doing something with them.

Driving by your house / work or having someone do that for them.

Get upset when you don't answer your phone or text as soon as they call or text

Not willing to see they have hurts or trauma and getting help for it. They only see something is wrong with you.

Constantly talk in circles to see if your answers will change.

Making you feel like it's wrong to have boundaries in the first place

Going through your social media outlets and questioning every little thing that's on them 

Showing pictures/video, letters, text or other personal things that were between you and them to other people. Telling other's stuff you talked about that was for their ears only. 

Gets upset when you want to better yourself or need me time

 Not understanding why you cut them out or other people out of your life without an explanation.

You have every right to cut people out if it's unhealthy to your well being. It doesn't matter who they are... toxic is toxic. Life is to short to be walking around on eggshells and not be happy filled with joy. 

#theonewithoutsincastthefirststone